Greatest Learnings and Most Helpful Spring 2022
Most Helpful To Reduce Use – Tobacco, Chew, Vape Products!
Do an activity – then did not feel like using – aka delaying the gratification was very helpful. Breaking the ritual – make using (the behavior we want to reduce) uncomfortable – Atomic Habits. Reward – amount and frequency – money jar – Have the reward be in line with reconnecting with our baby pink lungs for example go outside and take 3 cleansing breaths or earn a massage with all of the money you save! Be mindful – every moment especially with the cigarette in our hand, chew in our mouth or vape to mouth right now – what does the use of this one…mean – I’m bored, I’m really stressed, I just don’t know…Taking the one day at a time to the highest level by being in the moment one second at a time.
One student asked what about the Zyn product – it’s a pouch that has no tobacco and you place it between your cheek and gum. We found a link through the Truth Initiative – very informative but we didn’t have time to fully read it. Hence, we went a different direction.
What is it within us that compels us to use something? What are we self-medicating about? Would that be the question to explore, I suppose after we continue to find less harmful products – to get to a place where products are no longer needed at all! Wouldn’t that be the goal?
Of course, Dr. Gabor Mate’s teaching comes to mind – when we are kids – we are 100% authentic, then we are provided messages like “children should be seen and not heard” this leaves us some options – I can continue to sing my heart out and risk losing the relationship or I can be quieter and keep the relationship. Most of us picked the latter, and our hearts and song were quieted. This continues with more and more messages as we continue to blossom? Only we are becoming less and less of what we were meant to be – hence the behaviors and the use come in to off-set our inability to be 100% authentic that leads to more and more discomfort in our bodies.
As Don Miguel Ruiz in The Four Agreements states we are in a dream – showing up as we learned to be and until we wake, we will continue to be who were told to be rather than our true selves. So – when are we going to wake up?
I went out to dinner with a long-time friend who is very dear to my heart. I share my summary with them and put out my arm and ask them to pinch me so I can wake up or perhaps determine if I am indeed awake.
Please note – For all this that I ponder with you – I ponder with myself. It is so much more palpable to believe with all my heart in what I speak – this is my own feeble attempt at becoming more and more myself. The following is a part of my dear friend’s response.
“Then who am I?” As we go deeper into the conversation my friend points out that we do not exist in a vacuum – we are all a result of those who influenced us. I agree and I ponder in my own mind as I assess do I like who I have become. Because for much of my own life I truly did not. I ask again pinch me so I might better understand from where I come to who I am today. Their response floored me and left me wanting to know – who am I – am I awake?
“I want to stay in this dream. I don’t want to wake up. I won’t pinch you because you’ll wake and I might lose you.”
In this moment i determine that i am more me than ever before as I ponder then and now with you.
My question to you is are you living in a dream? Are you awake? Perhaps a bit of both? Do I wake & bake (a whole other topic – lol) or Do i wake and be?